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Jun. 14th, 2017 09:46 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
peacewishHaving said all that, I know you have to follow the American tradition of having to have happy endings, so I know you'll put them together. Which is why I like the original European movies better that the Hollywood remake, there's no quick "....and they lived happily after" I also get that there are lots of people who don't understand what a real relationship feels like.
Ah, hmm. I know my story provokes strong feelings in people, and that it can be easy to get carried away in reviews, but I really don't know how to feel about this comment. 50% of my audience has made it abundantly clear they want to see Jazz and Soundwave make it work, and 50% has been quite vocal for the opposite. I've known for a while that I'm not going to please everyone, whatever happens, but I really don't care for the sweeping generalization of what I'm likely to do because of the race I belong to, such as it is.
Leaving aside the stereotyping, I know writers like to have a Happily Ever After. That doesn't mean the HEA is quick - most certainly in a story now topping 50 chapters in length - or unsuitable. Sometimes people do get HEAs. Many people I know in my own life have HEAs, at least pending further developments. And having suffered through the last 7 years of what anyone could fairly call "a real relationship", complete with money squabbles, lifestyle choices, hurt feelings et al., I'm pleased to report that we stuck it out and are planning a wedding for next spring. So I don't know what she means when people say they don't know what a 'real' relationship feels like, unless they're so young they simply haven't been in one at all, because every relationship in this world is a real one.
It's just condescending and dismissive, and I really don't like it. This is part of a conversation that's been going back and forth for a few rounds now, but I'll elect to not respond at all rather than tell her I found her comments hurtful and offensive. Hence getting it off my chest here.
Ah, hmm. I know my story provokes strong feelings in people, and that it can be easy to get carried away in reviews, but I really don't know how to feel about this comment. 50% of my audience has made it abundantly clear they want to see Jazz and Soundwave make it work, and 50% has been quite vocal for the opposite. I've known for a while that I'm not going to please everyone, whatever happens, but I really don't care for the sweeping generalization of what I'm likely to do because of the race I belong to, such as it is.
Leaving aside the stereotyping, I know writers like to have a Happily Ever After. That doesn't mean the HEA is quick - most certainly in a story now topping 50 chapters in length - or unsuitable. Sometimes people do get HEAs. Many people I know in my own life have HEAs, at least pending further developments. And having suffered through the last 7 years of what anyone could fairly call "a real relationship", complete with money squabbles, lifestyle choices, hurt feelings et al., I'm pleased to report that we stuck it out and are planning a wedding for next spring. So I don't know what she means when people say they don't know what a 'real' relationship feels like, unless they're so young they simply haven't been in one at all, because every relationship in this world is a real one.
It's just condescending and dismissive, and I really don't like it. This is part of a conversation that's been going back and forth for a few rounds now, but I'll elect to not respond at all rather than tell her I found her comments hurtful and offensive. Hence getting it off my chest here.
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Date: 2017-06-15 05:16 am (UTC)I don't know if it's because they remain faceless, but I'm constantly surprised at how nasty people can be.
You don't have to be doing this. This story has obviously taken a lot of your time and energy, and the dismissive tone to that comment is just hackle-raising. I know I speak for a lot of folks when I say that I really appreciate your writing and this story (and I've been following the lj thread for about 4 or 5 years now). Thank you for putting yourself out there.
(Sorry...I don't usually post on complete strangers' blogs...but that sh*t got to me.)
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Date: 2017-06-16 02:46 am (UTC)I don't think she said it to be mean, though. After all, she's read this far into the story, so there must be something about it she likes. I think she was just talking and made a thoughtless remark. Lordy knows I've made plenty of my own across my life. For her own sake, though, I wish she knew how unbearably snotty it sounds when someone makes a comment like that.
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Date: 2017-06-16 05:03 am (UTC)And it could have been just thoughtless talking, but that frustrates me too. I'm hyper aware about how I come across in writing, because the person or audience I'm speaking to isn't there to take social ques from my body language. (Now, lord knows I slip up IRL and when my mind is focused on something else I don't pay attention to people and come across harsh. But I'm conscious of and working on that.) I edit and reread posts before sending them out there.
Maybe that's just me. When I reply (which is hardly, thank you anxiety), I want to be positive and encouraging. Because hey, that's what I would want.
All of this aside, it did not register before, but congratulations on your engagement! That's exciting.